Cane is my worst enemy.

Hey guys,

Last Sunday while attending church last Sunday, I remember the Pastor telling a rather hilarious story. 

One day, a kid stole some stationary items from his classmates. 

Of course, this ends with the teacher having to meet the kid's father. 

When the father came and heard the from the teacher about what the kid did. 

The father's face almost turned instantly. Without hearing any excuses or reasons from the kid. He shouted at the kid. 

"Why did you steal stationary items from your classmates! Isn't the stationaries I took from the office enough!?" 

Of course the whole church had a good laugh, including me. 

For those that didn't get the joke, taking office's stationaries is an act of stealing 

And if you still don't get the joke, it's funny because of its irony. 

After hearing that story and having a good laugh, I took a moment to see how nowadays parents are doing. 

Especially in Singapore today, parents aren't doing what they're supposed to do. Grooming the future of the country. 

Nowadays parents aren't the parents anymore. iPad and other electronics are their kids new parents. Whenever a kid cries, they will just give the kid an iPad, to let it entertain themselves. So...is the iPad the parent or the parents are the parent?

Can you see what's happening?
There's no physical connection! 

Can you imagine where in the future, the kid will call the iPad mama or dada, instead of the parents? 

Speaking of physical connection, I remember how my parents will "physical connect" with me. 

As a kid, my parents will hit me, they will ground me. Basically, they will do all those that no kids will ever enjoy. 

Of course, as a kid, I wouldn't understand why they think doing all those will help me. 

However, as a teenager now, I understand where they're coming from. In fact, I'm thankful for what they did. 

In an Asian family (when I say Asian, it's really Asian. No western influence.), it's normal that kids get hit (not in an abusive way). 

If you're a kid, maybe reading the following will help you understand why your parents hit you. Or if you're a parent, find out why it's appropriate to punish at correct times. 

1. When your kids starts doing things that might lead to bigger trouble in future. 

All of us knows that hitting our heads at the wall hurts. Some people just wanna hit it, then they can learn what's pain. However when our parents hit us on the head, though less painful, it warns us about where we're going. 

Punishing children are serve the same purpose. The parents knows where the kids are heading, they know that the kids are gonna hit against the wall. So the punishing serves as hitting on the head, so that the kid will know what he should do and what not to.

2. After your kid did something wrong. 

Habits don't happen overnight, habits are cultivated over a long time. 

I remember one of my teacher told the class that if we continue to scratch our nose one time, everyday, we would scratch it without knowingly. Thanks to that, I have a habit where I scratch my nose (the outside, not inside!) .

If kids already did things that are wrong, punishing will serve as a rehab. Stop that act before it becomes a habit. 

3. When kids stop respecting their parents. 

I know a lot of kids will say,

"There's nothing about my mum that deserves respecting!" 

I understand how all that feels, personally, I feel my parents aren't the best role models. Time to time, i feel that why should I respect them? 

However, no matter what, your parents gave you life. You are able to read these because your parents bothered to raise you up. 

No matter what they do, they're still your parents. So respect them, especially your mom, 'cause having you inside her for 9 months isn't really easy. 

However, saying all these. Parents, give your kids something to respect. Family moulds how a kid behaves in he future. They mold how they perceive things. 

So parents, be the best role models you can be.

Don't be the following.

Saying all these, punishing and hitting isn't effective in all kids. 

Especially if they're sensitive to feelings. 

Sometimes talking, is so much better than hitting. Understanding is better than violence. However, some kids just deserve physical punishment. 

Physical punishment is works wonder at appropriate times, but that doesn't mean you can hit the kid as and when you like. It shouldn't be the case when the kid goes to school with cane marks on their arms. It shouldn't be the case where they are traumatized by a cane. 

If you think you're in a abusive family. Please get help from official organizations. Call 1800-258 6378 for help and dial 999 if you're in danger 

Till next time, stay awesome and rock on. 

 Here's a cute doggy for being awesome.